It Does Get Better - The L Project

It's been a while...

So I realise that it's been a while read nearly a year since I last updated but I've been rather busy
with college (dull) working (not bad) and various other things.
Anyway the reason why I decided to update was because I wanted to speak about something to all of you
 it's about a certain image that's been doing the rounds lately I'm sure you all know it, the one which has a row of modern day ultra thin celebs at the top and a row of celebs from a past era all of which are curvy or bigger than the standard model size, with the capption when did this become more beautiful than this?
 Do you want to know the answer to that question? No? Well tough because I'm going to tell you the answer and it is... It didn't everybody no matter their size or shape is beautiful and just like I've always said I will not put up with fat shaming I will also not put up with scrutinising people for being two thin because most of the people who are so quick to judge someone have no idea what it's like to constantly be told that you're too thin or "eat a sandwich" and you know what the really sickening thing is? We put them there with our magazines that scream out at us that thin is beautiful, advert after advert after advert each telling us about a quick fix miracle for weight loss. We are constantly being bombarded with all these messages and it infuriates me. Society is the reason that 60% of young girls under the age of 10 are unhappy with their weight, why one in 3 14-25 year olds will develop some form of eating disorder, and why 92% of CHILDREN feel like they can't talk to their parents about their eating habits. And it needs to stop.

 You are not your bra size, nor are you the width of your waist, nor are you the slenderness of your calves. You are not your hair color, your skin color, nor are you a shade of lipstick. Your shoe size is of no consequence. You are not defined by the amount of attention you get from males, females, or any combination thereof. You are not the number of sit-ups you can do, nor are you the number of calories in a day. You are not your mustache. You are not the hair on your legs. You are not a little red dress. You are no amalgam of these things. You are the content of your character. You are the ambitions that drive you. You are the goals that you set. You are the things that you laugh at and the words that you say. You are the thoughts you think and the things you wonder. You are beautiful and desirable not for the clique you attend, but for the spark of life within you that compels you to make your life a full and meaningful one. You are beautiful not for the shape of the vessel, but for the volume of the soul it carries.

book challenge numbers one to twenty three

So I kind of forgot about the book challenge thing for a bit :/
anyway here's a list of books I've read so far and yes I would recommend them to you all

• Whales for The Wizard - Malcom Archibald 
• The Passion of New Eve - Angela Carter
• The Bloody Chamber and Other Stories - Angela Carter 
• James and The Giant Peach - Roald Dahl 
• The Old Man and Me - Elaine Dundy 
• The Provincial Daughter - R.M Dashwood 
• Breathing in Colour - Clare Jay 
• The Camomile - Catherine Carswell 
• There Once Lived A Woman Who Tried To Kill Her Neighbour's Baby - Ludmilla Petrushevskaya
• The Printer's Devil - Paul Bajoria 
• God of Mischief - Paul Bajoria 
• Harry Potter and The Deathly Hallows - J.K. Rowling 
• The Magic Toyshop - Angela Carter 
• The Sadeain Woman and The Ideology of Pornography - Angela Carter
• The Mirror Crack'd from Side to Side - Agatha Christie 
•  the merlin conspiracy - dianna wynn jones 
•  good behaviour - molly keane 
•  the man witrh the dancing eyes - sophie dahl 
•  number 10 - sue townsend 
• family money - nina bawden
• the savage garden - mark mills
• blood child - tim bowler 
• burning mountain - L.J. Adlington 

why I am pro choice

The abortion debate could be so much nicer than it is. There is no way to compromise because either abortion is legal or it is not, but the debate could go a lot more smoothly.

While there isn’t a nice middle ground where everybody can be happy, there are some tings that we could both agree on. Lowering the rate of unintended pregnancy, for one. We can do this by giving everyone extensive comprehensive sex education and access to reliable, affordable contraception. Another one might be making it easier to raise a child. Less stigma against certain mothers, better healthcare, more affordable childcare. Those would be really nice things to see happen. The pro-life side would get less abortions and the pro-choice side would get people better able to live their lives as they see fit. Win-win, right?

Not for pro-lifers, it’s not. Not only do they oppose abortion, a great deal of them oppose birth control, sex education, and making it easier to raise children. So many of the posts on this blog are examples of pro-life people taking giant leaps backward in progress. It’s become blatantly obvious to me that they really and truly do not care about fetuses. They care about controlling and punishing sexuality. They don’t want us to know about our bodies, to be able to prevent pregnancy, or to be able to raise healthy, happy children. They don’t want us to be able to have sex and get away with it. That’s really what it all boils down to.

Am I wrong, lifers? Do I misunderstand you? Well, go ahead and prove it. You might support pregnancy prevention, but your leaders don’t. Look at what pro-life politicians are doing right now. Look at what pro-life groups are doing right now. I have yet to see a single mainstream pro-life leader who openly supports comprehensive sex education and birth control. Many of them openly oppose both, and the others remain silent so as not to step on any toes. If you think this is wrong, start talking to your leaders. Start making some changes to your movement.

Right now, the only people I see supporting comprehensive sex ed and contraception are the pro-choicers. Cry about how we’re evil and pushing abortion so we can make a profit all you want but we are the ones actually preventing abortions. We’re in clinics teaching girls how to not get pregnant, you’re outside screaming at the ones who already are.

Bolded for emphasis. Your move, pro-lifers.

Go Placidly ...

is probably one of the only texts with a religious reference that doesn't annoy me,
and that's only because you can't tell until the line Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be; 

the whole text from the very first letter to the last full stop pretty much resonates with me... It's the guideline I follow for living my life

I grew up with a framed version of it hanging on the landing outside my bedroom and when I moved from my Home down to Greenock for college it was the first thing that I packed to take with me. I decided a long time ago that where ever I end up in life whether its on the other side of the world from my family or back home in Shetland that piece of framed text will always come with me no matter what, it holds my childhood in a few simple lines of text. Every word is loaded with meaning for me and whenever I read it it's like coming home at the end of a long day, its the smell of baking, salt spray in the air, of sheep and haymaking in the summer, its all the hugs from my dad, my mum's hands running through my hair, it's nights curled up in my armchair by the fire with a good book on a cold winter evening, its rock climbing barefooted and not caring about scraped shins, its my brother and I spending all our time together and speaking in our own made up language, it's the sound of a grandfather clock ticking and the soft murmur of voices as I sleep, its the call of a seagull and the swish and suck of an ocean tide on shingle, its being five years old again and falling asleep on my dad's lap to the feel of his heartbeat and the rhythm of his breathing, its being taught how to cook and burnt fingers on sticky jam, using beetroot juice as war paint, building mini bonfires and playing Cowboys and Indians. It's my brother and I setting fire to our bunk bed cause we wanted to practice making campfires, its long summer days and walking down to the village myself at the age of 7. The first time I got drunk and the first time I smoked a spliff.

To put it as simply as possible it is My Home in text form and the fact that it mentions God once in the whole thing honestly doesn't matter to me.

50 Book Challenge

And once again its been a while since I updated ... I'm not going to bother apologising cause its pretty pointless really, we all know it'll happen again :P
Now because this was originally going to be a book based blog (kind of went of the rails with that one) I thought I would let you all know about the 50 Book Challenge ... Basically the idea is to read 50 books in a year
you have between the 17th of April and the 16th of April (11:59GMT) to read 50 books
books that you have read before the start date do not count
if you have just started a book or are halfway through one then that will count as your first book
if you read the same book twice in a year then that counts as two books
so know you all know the rules get reading :)

book 1) Whales for the Wizard - Malcolm Archibald

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update

so once again its been a while since I updated this I did honestly mean to but various issues prevented it :(
anyway this following post has been inspired by a thread on a forum that i frequent rather alot entitled 50 things you'd like to do in your life time as of yet i dont have 50 things but here is a list of 10
10, visit the following countries, Japan, Italy, Finland, Spain, Poland
9, get a decently paid job
8, take part in a suspension either rope based or a proper one that involves hooks being shoved through parts of your anatomy and you being hoisted up off the ground
7, get a new tattoo and more piercings although nothing that will prevent number 19 which actually leaves me with a lot of scope (nipple piercings here i come)
6, get back into writing poetry and short stories which i haven't done for a while, writers block is a pain in the backside...
5, learn to speak at least 2 other languages fluently or at least fluently enough that i don't sound like a twat
4, be happy with myself, i'm getting there slowly :)
3, do something that involves singing in public, even if its just taking part in a kareoke night at the local pub, i've been told that i have quite a good singing voice but my confidence isn't great.
2, learn how to play the guitar i will do this i have a lovely guitar which is just sitting at home gathering dust
1, see at least one of my favourite bands in concert, i'm not counting download here as the festival atmosphere is very different to a concert atmosphere

so there it is and now time for a challenge what are the things that you would like to do with your life it can be anything you like :)

on another note this is my picture of the week

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